Christian dating no physical attraction

I still don't have peace about marrying him, and I think it's due to a lack of attraction to him physically and emotionally.

His good qualities are dwarfed by the things I find annoying or even embarrassing, and I'm way more attracted to other guys physically.

Let's examine two problems with the "attraction-as-foundation" approach to dating and marriage — one theological, one practical — and then look at the idea of biblical attraction. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.

Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

Biblical Christians, however, are called to think differently.

In our culture — and in many churches — "attraction," whether purely physical or "chemistry-related," is considered the foundational way to evaluate a potential marriage relationship.’ I’m surprised how many people – both women and men – write to me because they’re worried that they ‘ought’ to date someone they’re not attracted to, and to insist on attraction would be superficial and un Godly.Certainly, the Bible tells us that God looks not at outward appearances, but at the heart.We are to take every thought, every area of our lives captive to the word of God.Thankfully, "attraction" does play a role in finding a husband or wife. Biblically, however, attraction as the world understands it cannot be the foundation on which a godly marriage is built.

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